A generation ago Dr. Spock, the famous child care author, popularized the idea that children ought to never receive any physical punishment for misbehavior. He claimed that such “negative discipline” is dangerous, does not work, and should be replaced with positive reinforcement. Many parents followed his advice. The result? — the hippies and flower children of the late 60’s and early 70’s who had learned nothing about self-discipline or restraint. Even Dr. Spock backed away from his failed philosophy.

Sadly, this view still surfaces from time to time. Compare it to what God says about child rearing in the book of Proverbs:

“Foolish is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction will drive it far from him.” (22:15)

“Do not withhold correction from a child, for if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod, and deliver his soul from hell. “ (23:13,14)

“The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.” (29:15)

Obviously, these instructions cannot be used to justify child abuse. Also, they need to be administered in conjunction with love and positive reinforcement for behavior that is right. Ephesians 6:4 urges us to use a balanced approach that will not “provoke your children to wrath”.

But when we refuse to give physical discipline when it is needed, we are saying that Dr. Spock knows more about raising kids than God does. Think!

– by Greg Gwin