“The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will
have no lack of gain. She does him good, not harm, all
the days of her life” (Proverbs 31:12, ESV).
Counselor: “What seems to be the problem?”
Woman: “My husband is not the man I married. He’s
changed! And not for the better, either!”
Counselor: “How long have you been married?”
Woman: “Fifteen years.”
Counselor: “And who do you suppose has been the
greatest influence, for better or worse, in his life
these last fifteen years? If he has changed, as you
say, who changed him?”
I don’t think that at the outset of a marriage any one
intends to bring her spouse “harm.” Weddings are
optimistic affairs, after all, full of good intentions.
An excellent question to ask before getting married is:
“Does this person make me better when I am around him?”
An even better question is this: “Do I make him better
when he is around me?”]”
A good relationship is one where each makes the other
better. The “worthy woman” of Proverbs is outstanding
because her husband’s accomplishments, the respect he
has in his community, his character, are largely
because of her good influence.
She “brings him good…all the days of her life.”
You will change your spouse; the question is whether
you will change him for the better or the worse!