Here is a little list I found while digging through some old material. There’s no indication that I had published it before.
- Listen carefully to what he says, and to what he doesn’t say. If you complain that he won’t talk to you, maybe it’s because you’ve not learned to listen.
- Build up his ego. Sincerely. He needs approval and acceptance. Praise him. Believe in him, don’t tear him down.
- Never, ever criticize him in front of others. This is playing unfairly. It is cowardly.
- Enjoy your intimate life together. Follow the rule of 1 Corinthians 7.3-5. He needs you, physically. Your intimate relationship makes you one flesh.
- Make home an enjoyable place for him to come back to.
- Consider yourself a homemaker, “fulfilling [your] duties at home” Titus 2.5.
- Keep your priorities in order: God first, your husband second, your children third, and others last.
- Nagging creates barriers and causes your husband to close up.
- Don’t bother to tell him all his faults, all the times he fails to do what he ought, all the times he leaves his clothes on the floor.
- Take care of your spiritual life with God. Pray for yourself, your husband, and your relationship. Develop your commitment to God. He will carry you through.
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