My mother-in-law was placed in Hospice

I had not intended to write this lesson just yet, but I believe it to be important, and while it is still fresh in my mind, a warning to those who may die out of Christ.

“For He saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold now is the day of salvation.”
II Corinthians 6:2

“Life’s tragedy is we get old too soon and wise too late.” ~ Ben Franklin

My mother-in-law was placed in Hospice Monday afternoon. She is almost 98. A non-Christian. I suppose this happens to some, perhaps more than I know. Several times in her life she was asked to have a Bible study. She refused, and would grow angry if you pressed the matter. It’s strange how memories return at time like this. But I suppose it is the finality of it. She outlived two husbands and two sons. Only one son was a faithful member of the Lord’s church, and he was my husband. Over the last day or so I became angry, and I could not understand until this morning why I felt that way…..and then it came to me. I was angry because all of this was so unnecessary, but the choices were hers. I had wise counsel regarding this. She lived many years, more than most, for she is almost 98. She did as she chose with those years. ….and now she is coming to her final days on this earth without hope, peace, joy. An eternity without Him. A few short years on earth, and eternity stretches out before her, and never ends.

“I suspect some not only don’t like how something is said, they don’t like what has been said, and likely would not accept it regardless of how it could be said.”

“And now why tarriest thou? arise, and be baptized, and wash away thy sins, calling on the name of the Lord.” Acts 22:16

Why, the eternal why? This didn’t have to happen. She could have lived a very successful and happy life of hearing and learning the Gospel and becoming a faithful member of His church and lived out the rest of her life in peace. Instead, from details I am receiving from Hospice. It is anything but a peaceful death. It troubles me even yet, and the thought I can do nothing about it is worse. Even as I write these words the anger is stirred again. This didn’t have to happen…and don’t let it happen to you.

“The days of our years are threescore years and ten; and if by reason of strength they be fourscore years, yet is their strength labour and sorrow; for it is soon cut off, and we fly away.” Psalms 90:10

At some point we are going to die. It is a fact. We think of death in the far away future, but it is just a heartbeat away. Ignoring the Gospel plan of salvation is placing our souls in danger. Sometimes we live as though life will never end, but how many do you know in your life who died unexpectedly, earlier than one would expect, accidents or illness? It happens every day. We tell ourselves many lies, or rather Satan tells us, we have more time. Can you prove you have more time? Of course not.

“Therefore watch, and remember, that by the space of three years I ceased not to warn every one night and day with tears.” Acts 20:31

“And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment: . . .” Hebrews 9:27

My husband’s brother did the same. He too was offered the Gospel, but the world called, and he answered. A clean bill of health in the hospital one day, and in less than 24 hours, he was dead. 24 hours earlier he was thrilled to be out of the hospital and resume life as normal. ….and while on the table to remove his leg, he requested our son do the funeral….and he did. A non-Christian funeral.

“Words. How little they mean when you’re a little too late.” ~ Swift

“In flaming fire taking vengeance on them that know not God, and that obey not the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ: II Thessalonians 1:8

“Don’t say, “There’s still time.” or “Maybe next time.” Because there’s also the concept of “It’s too late.”

My mother-in-law has not passed on yet, and she continues to fight for a physical life that is ending. I wonder what runs through her mind. . . . would she be more receptive of the Gospel? She is beyond reach. I am her sole care giver. I expect she never dreamed I would be taking care of her in her latter years. . . . . but I have since the day my husband died. How strange, the woman who desired to teach her the Gospel, would one day be caring for her every need. . . . . .and one of the more important needs for the rest of her life and beyond, went unheeded then………and it is why I became angry and sad at the same time. Conflicting emotions. . . . .and I wait. . . .

“The saddest summary of life is just five words long. “Could have and should have.” ~ Unknown

Eileen Light

6 thoughts on “My mother-in-law was placed in Hospice

  1. Eileen,
    Death of a loved one is hard even if they are Christian, but it must be so much harder to know the eternal destiny of one who has refused God’s commands.

    Perhaps someone sometime approached her in the wrong way and caused her bitterness. We never know what happened to her in the past. Of course that does not alter the present, but maybe it will serve as a warning to those of us who try to teach others.

    • Thank you Beth. I don’t know what made her reject teaching, but I remember her saying she was satisfied with her parent’s religion. At least on one occasion. She believed the church to be narrow minded. If that is the case, then all other truths are narrow minded as well. 2+2 equals 4, water freezes, at 32 degrees etc. Therefore, Truth +Truth equals Truth. No more, no less. All other religions + Truth does not equate. I pray that made sense. So tragic………

  2. I don’t know what to write but my heart has been stirred to encourage you. There is hope. As long as there is breath, there is hope. Hallelujah! Thank You for Jesus Christ, our anchor of hope

  3. I, too, am already grieving over a mother-in-law who has rejected the gospel time and again. At one point she even put her hands over her ears and shouted at my husband, “Gary, I don’t want to hear it!” Thank you for writing such a poignant plea to those for whom it is not yet too late.

  4. I’m so sorry Christine! I know and understand. …but I Remer our Lord’s teaching about the soil, and some soil is not receptive to seed. Actually, it has been too late for awhile. This is only awaiting the finality. She has had dementia for a few years. …..but I remember when that was not the case. For whatever reason this finality that I am awaiting is very hard, very sad and very tragic…….
    You are welcome Christine! Perhaps your mother-in-law can read this and be persuaded.

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