In years past families were often larger than in the present time. Sibling rivalry was more noted in families where children were many and close in age. In one such family it was reported that two sisters were always in conflict. Upon careful observation it was witnessed that the younger girl was always trying to usurp attention and be considered the “ top dog” so to speak in the family pecking order. Unfortunately for her, her personality, talents and position in the lineup rarely afforded her the honor she desired. In spite of her parent’s fair and impartial love and care for all their children this child was restless and frustrated. She would sometimes hide on her sister and when she was not looking trip her and cause her to fall. This of course brought unhappy circumstances that were troublesome for all involved.
In Matthew chapter 18 our Lord talks about this attitude of rivalry in His teachings. Jealousy can be defined as the coveting of the heart for a position or possession that belongs to another. In the Lord’s church we must carefully guard our hearts against such a destructive attitude. The disciples struggled with this and in this chapter asked Jesus a revealing question: “Who then is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” The Lord’s answer was surprising: Jesus said: “Assuredly, I say to you, unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven.” Jesus is calling His children to grow up spiritually by taking on His nature and stop acting childishly as evidenced by their desire to be the greatest! He explains His statement by stating in vs 4: “…whoever humbles himself as this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.” Humility is that gracious quality of soul that allows the beauty of Jesus to be seen in us. It is the foundation of love and peace and brings about spiritual health among God’s children.
The Lord also made it very clear that “whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were drowned in the depth of the sea.” Causing another to stumble is a serious offense to God. Where ever we witness this happening among our sisterhood/brotherhood we can be assured that the ugly pride of the self nature is rearing its head. Our great enemy is the driving force behind this. Jesus warns that not only does this attitude harm an innocent babe in Christ, but it destroys the spiritual life of the one causing another to falter.
In our culture today, women have become as competitive as men in seeking their professional goals. This attitude must not find its way into the community of the church. Women with strong leadership talents in the workplace can sometimes unconsciously bring that same spirit into their service for the Lord. I believe two such strong personalities were noted in Paul’s writing in the book of Philippians.
It seems two faithful, dedicated sisters were in conflict with one another and were disrupting the church. Paul would write in Philippians 4:2-3: “I implore Euodia and I implore Syntyche to be of the same mind in the Lord. And I urge you also, true companion, help these women who labored with me in the gospel, with Clement also, and the rest of my fellow workers, whose names are in the Book of Life.” Earlier Paul would admonish the brethren saying: “fulfill my joy by being likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, one mind.” 2:2.
When the scriptures use the word “implore” there is a serious tone being summoned. Gossip, backbiting, competition, coveting another’s position, factions and the like are clearly condemned in the word of God and we must all guard our hearts against the temptation to participate in any of these destructive behaviors.
Instead, be busy in the work of the Lord. If you are doing the will of God, according to the Word of God, in the strength He supplies for His glory then you will not have time for stirring up strife and tearing another down. If you have an issue with someone, GO to that person and be reconciled. Matthew 18: 15ff gives us clear and wise counsel in resolving offenses between God’s people. Finally, let the love of God reign in your hearts!! We have work to do my dear sisters, women to teach, children to raise and believe me they are watching us all the time. May we never cause a precious child of God to stumble!!
Lovingly submitted by Laura Dayton