Every child I’ve ever known who has been taught to pray gets in a habit of praying the exact same words without thinking about what he/she is saying. This is not a bad thing; after all, we are constantly encouraging our children to make habits of good things. The ultimate goal, though, is to mature them into people who talk to the Father rather than people who repeat a daily “liturgy.”
I think it’s important that we remind our very young children to think of new things for which to thank Him. So we say, just before the child prays “Think of some new things we can thank Him for…and let’s think of one thing we would love to ask Him for.” Then, in the prayer, if the children struggle to think of something new, you gently interrupt and say, “Let’s thank Him that the sun was shining while we were at the park,” or “Let’s tell God thank-you for the new book we got in the mail today,” or Let’s thank God that the rain is making our corn grow.” You might say “Don’t forget to ask God for help in some way…What about if we ask Him to help Grandma get over her cough or maybe we ask Him to help us to be able to invite someone to our gospel meeting tomorrow.”
Interrupting little prayers is a great way to prompt and promote “thinking” prayers. I’ve seen it become a great building block to sincere and thoughtful talks with the Father. Most importantly, your parental example of fervently talking to the Father, rather than “quoting” to Him is crucial in this process.
Good article, canned prayers by adults, I hate listening to.
Prayers after a Bible class lesson gives the child a chance to be thankful for things he learned that day. The same is true for adults who have the closing prayer after sermon.
Our oldest child was very enthusiastic about his prayers. He noticed and prayed about everything to do with his plate of food and showed his enthusiasm by thanking God for each part–even to naming the items. Shortly after that, we moved from Minnesota to Texas where we had hominy, and that puzzled him for a minute, but he finally said, “And thanks for the little fat corns.” I did not bother to correct him during his prayers, but I did talk to him and explain the name afterward.
One day I decided to help him go a little deeper in his prayers, and mentioned that he could also ask the Heavenly Father for things like understanding and wisdom. His little three-year-old mind picked up on the phrase, ask God for things. So that night as I was praying with him when he went to bed, he prayed for a new truck and a train with a track, but not for wisdom or understanding. I had to correct him after his prayer and remind him that toys and “mammon” were not things he should ask God for.
Our one year old daughter was in a crib across the room. She had never spoken a word up to that time, but I heard her baby voice say, “I wove ee God.”